When did 'stop and smell the roses' become, "I have such a busy life!"? Don't get me wrong being busy doesn't have to be a bad thing. But it's how you live your life, while being busy that can determine your well-being.
As a wedding and event planner, we are just in the business, of being busy especially during wedding season. I wanted to jot down 5 ways I am going to unwind this summer. In between the weddings, graduation parties, family reunions, and everything else that will be coming my way, I have got to find a way to relax.
1. Spend more time with my husband. A common sense answer, right? Wrong. After after we have dinner it's time to unwind. Frankly, if I had a busy day, that's my time to get actual work done. Whether it's keeping up with our marketing, answering e-mails, creating contracts and timelines, and the list continues. I want to spend more time with Evan, not as I sit with him and do work, but put everything else aside and give him my full attention. This doesn't just relate to my husband, but maybe yours as well, or what about your kids? When did they get so tall?
2. Schedule things I enjoy. My life has become what my phone calendar, and planner tells me to do this week. Why not schedule in non-work things and make time for yourself? A cup of coffee with a friend? Definitely. A walk through Downtown Scranton? Yes please. So often we schedule things that we have to do, why don't we start scheduling things we want to do. At the end of the summer instead of saying, "Oh I wish we would have had time to do ______!" you will have, because you made the time.
3. Give and take more grace. What does that have to do with unwinding? Because when you give yourself more grace, you're no longer competing with yourself, but pushing yourself to become a better, more relaxed person. (Who doesn't want to become a better, relaxed person?) I don't know about you, but I make up these unreachable deadlines in my mind sometimes, and as the made up pressure is on, I blow off my husband, I blow off the things I enjoy, and lose the fun of planning a wedding (or whatever it may be). I want to be a conduit of grace as I stop being so hard on myself, and on others.
As I look at my schedule and sense the overwhelming of deadlines, meetings, etc. I am going to take a breath. Remember why I'm doing, what I'm doing, look forward to that coffee date I planned and spend the evening with my husband (and not telling him about the latest wedding uproar.)
What do you do to unwind?
Have a great week!
Wedding & Event Planner.